If we are being completely honest here, I donâ€™t know how necessary it is to put all of this high and intense pressure on men for Valentineâ€™s Day. Itâ€™s not even just men; itâ€™s all couples on Valentineâ€™s Day. But for some reason men seem to be singled out on this one day every single year. I am a firm believer in the idea that if you are in a relationship you can treat your significant other well all year round and then you donâ€™t need to overdo it on Valentineâ€™s Day just to prove that you are a good boyfriend.
From the Jan. 1 to Feb. 13 the pressure is on to find a way to top what you did last year. It is no longer about a small gesture to remind your significant other that you love them. It seems to be that we have to buy chocolates delivered by a pug, and hire the Plain White Tâ€™s to serenade them all day just to prove our love. I would like to live in a world where guys are not automatically expected to fail on Valentineâ€™s Day and have to make up for their failure by buying their way out of it.
The built-up stereotype of the dumb, bumbling boyfriend does not actually exist in real life. I am sure there are plenty of guys out there who forget Valentineâ€™s Day, but there are an overwhelming number of guys who donâ€™t screw things up every chance they get. Those are the boyfriends who donâ€™t need to be spending their life savings trying to make up for something they never did in the first place. I believe that there should be more leniencies in the time leading up to the Valentineâ€™s Day. We should maybe keep in mind that it is a day to be happy and love each other, not to hold high and unrealistic expectations of guys on one sugar-filled, floral-scented box of name brand chocolates.
I think it would be in everybodyâ€™s best interest to take a step back and try to tone down the insanity surrounding Cupidâ€™s holiday. Guys just get blasted year after year with this holiday; maybe this Saturday can be a relaxing and enjoyable time. The only other thing I would like to say here is that instead of obsessing over the colossal amount of candy you will be expecting on Feb. 14; think about how grateful you are for the people you do have in your life. Think about how prior to Valentineâ€™s Day all of your friends and your significant other have proven how much they care about you, because they wouldnâ€™t be in your life if they hadnâ€™t already done so.